As the founder and owner of Held and Heard Therapy, I want to extend a warm welcome and offer you hope in this difficult place. You have taken an incredible step forward in seeking help and support, and that takes courage. So, pat yourself on the back and get excited for the work that we get to do together
Masters of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy
Advanced Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy
High Conflict Couples
Populations I Frequently Work With:
Couples (LGBTQ are welcomed here)
Adult Children of Parents with Borderline/Narcissistic Tendencies
Nicole Zens, M.S.
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #122319
The nature of any therapeutic relationship is fairly one-sided; I get the pleasure of knowing you, while you know little about me. As such, I want to share some information about me to help balance that dynamic before we get started.
I am highly-trained and skilled Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT # 122319), who has been passionate about helping others for my entire life. I know the pain that life can bring on a deeply personal level, and I am determined to help others find their way through it so that suffering does not need to ensue. I nurture my passion for helping others by healing old wounds, repairing hurting relationships, and transforming life's most difficult battles into opportunities for deep, human connection.
As an advanced-trained Emotionally Focused Therapist, I utilize empirically-supported interventions to help my couples, families, and individuals take active steps towards their desired goals. I meet each client in their pain, hopelessness, and discomfort by offering up a safe therapeutic environment, and then gently guiding them to a place of renewed hope and reconnection. Along the way, I remain authentic, empathic, supportive, and warm. I redirect couple and family interactions in a way that facilitates greater understanding, a heightened sense of security, and enhanced emotional closeness. Finally, I hold my clients' pain in a way that lightens their load and, in couples therapy, I assist each partner in doing the same for one another. In using these techniques, I have had the pleasure of witnessing countless powerful and moving transformations take place in the hearts of the many couples, families, and individuals with whom I have worked over the course of my clinical career. As such, I am a firm believer in the efficacy of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the power of vulnerability, and the overwhelming capacity for human resilience.
Professionally, I have been working in this field for several years now. Upon realizing my passion for therapy, I earned my Masters of Science degree from Virginia Tech's highly-regarded and rigorous Marriage and Family Therapy program. I have worked closely with several very talented EFT clinicians, and have had the privilege of obtaining hundreds of hours of one-on-one training from the highly regarded and world-renowned EFT trainer, Kathryn Rheem.
With this knowledge and experience, I specialize in working with high conflict couples or couples struggling with major injuries to their attachment (i.e., affairs). However, I also have experience in addressing a variety of presenting problems including, but not limited to: relational disconnection, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, trauma, infidelity, intimacy concerns, gender and sexuality issues, body image concerns, sexual assault, school-related problems (children/adolescents), and behavioral problems (children/adolescents).